FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

        

1. Isn't your work depressing?

Working with people at the end of their lives allows me to provide information and reassurance to ill persons and their families, which reduces their anxiety and helps them to prepare for momentous change. I find helping people to face their fears and get beyond them is a deeply rewarding experience.

2. I am afraid of morphine. What else is available to relieve pain?

There are many therapies other than drugs which can affect our perception of pain. Examples are rest, heat or cold, relaxation by many different methods, biofeedback,massage, acupuncture. Medications for mild discomfort may be bought over the counter, eg aspirin, tylenol, and your doctor can prescribe others. Morphine is only used if all other methods to reduce pain are unsuccessful.

3. I want to have a clear mind when I die. If I am in a lot of pain and require morphine,
    will it cloud my consciousness?

Morphine and the other drugs in the opiate family all have side effects which vary from person to person. However the majority of these unwanted symptoms disappear within a few days. When morphine is given regularly and in gradually increasing amounts according to the degree of pain, problems such as drowsiness are usually minimal. The ill person who is comfortable is more likely to be able to put their full attention on what is happening to them.

4. If I am dying, how can I help my loved ones?

Talk to them about what is happening to you, and how you feel. Encourage them to participate in your care. Ask another person to see that your main caregiver gets adequate rest, eats well, and gets some time away from their duties to continue with their regular life.

5. I don't want to die in a hospital. How can I remain in my own environment, with the people
    of my choosing caring for me?

Nursing care and many hospital procedures may take place in your home, but the availability of equipment and home care staff varies with location. Ask about your local hospice group, and see if your physician will continue your care at home.

6. Who am I?

No-one can answer a profound spiritual question such as this. What is important is to be fully present when such issues emerge, and to encourage the questioner in his or her own exploration.